Your Best New Year’s Resolutions Yet
December 24, 2015
It’s time to hone in on your New Year’s Resolutions, guys! C’mon you know you want to. We’ll make it easier: we talked to some guys who are experts in goal-setting. Success coaches Dave Hartman and Bruce Morrow are the founders of myFoodChain, a firm dedicated to ensuring that everyone reaches their goals, whether they be personal, career-oriented, or otherwise. Dave gave us some great tips about setting goals and resolutions, and we thought we’d share them with you. Ready? Set! Here we go, forwards to your best New Year’s Resolutions ever.
Q: What’s up with New Year’s Resolutions, anyway? Is this really the best time to make a new resolution?
A: Things are slowing down, so people are generally in the mindset to set goals, likely because they’re already starting to look forward to next year.
But, while this is a great time for goals, it’s not the best time. The best times to set goals are are perpetual, throughout the year.
Resolutions (which I refer to as goals) are a way to design your life. They’re opportunities to think about what you want to achieve, what you want to be, what kind of life you want to live. Looking at it in that light, you’ll achieve a lot more and do more of things you want if you set goals all throughout the year.
Q: What’s the kind of resolution you think is most likely to stick?
A: The ones most likely to stick are the ones people are most serious about. If you’re serious about it then you’ll be committed to it. How can you tell if you’re really serious about something? Writing your goals down is the first step. It’s a simple action you can take to start the process. By the way, don’t mistake “nice to do” or “nice to have” things for something you’re serious about.
A great corollary to this is dissatisfaction. Things you want to change or things you’re not happy about are great places to make the changes we need to make. It’s usually when we’re sick and tired of being sick and tired that we finally decide to make changes, and where we need to make those changes.
Q: How can folks who are making resolutions make them a reality?
A: First, make your resolution a priority. If it’s a priority then you’re declaring that this is important to you. Second, keep it in your face. When it’s out of sight, it’s out of mind. Third, look to get small wins early and often. Small wins build momentum, and it’s the momentum that will help keep you going when you encounter resistance.
Q: What’s the number-one mistake you see people making when it comes to actually making a resolution?
A: They’re not clear about what they want to achieve. Too often people make statements like “I want to get healthy” or “I want to be a better parent” but that kind of goal doesn’t take advantage of our best asset, our brain. The brain is target seeking: It’s looking for a specific target so it can work for you to hit the target. When we set resolutions that are vague, or general, those goals confuse the brain, and don’t allow us to take full advantage of it to help us achieve what want.
Think of your brain like a GPS system: If we set “Philadelphia” as our destination, the GPS will get us to “somewhere” in Philadelphia. If we plug in a specific address in Philadelphia as our destination, the GPS will take us to that specific address.
Q: And what’s the number-one mistake you see people making it comes to making a resolution stick?
They give up. Too often, people quit after a little resistance. I learned from my partner Bruce: “If you serious about achieving something and you don’t give up, you’re bound to achieve it.”
Making a resolution stick is about not giving up. Things aren’t always going to go your way. You’ll probably have some setbacks, but that’s a part of the process. (Actually, if you don’t experience some setbacks, then you probably set your goal too low.)
Q: What’s the best New Year’s Resolution you’ve ever seen?
A. That’s a tough one: It all comes down to the individual and what’s really life-changing for them. I made my best New Year’s Resolution 13 years ago, when I decided to start my own business. It was an exciting goal but a scary one at the same time, and I think that’s what made me realize that it was a worthy goal to have. (A goal that’s scary for you is worth stretching for. It means you’re thinking big.)
One day while writing a list of goals I decided that this was the most important thing for me to do. A few months later I made the leap, and I have never looked back. Thirteen years later I can still say it has been one of the best decisions of my life. Once could be, I used my dissatisfaction at the time to decide that this was my top priority in my life. I got some small wins early on and kept my goal in my face until I made it a reality. Another lesson could be that if a goal is scary well that’s an indication that you’re thinking big and stretching yourself which means it could be a life changer for you.
Q: What’s YOUR New Year’s Resolution for 2016, Dave?
A. I have a long list. To name a few: to continue to grow our company online, learn how to sharpen my chef’s knives on a Japanese whetstone, learn how to meditate, start a whole new workout regime so I can get in better shape for my wedding…
It’s nice to know that even the professionals set goals for themselves. To learn more about what the success coaches at myFoodChain can help you with, visit them on the web, or on facebook, where you’ll find lots of great tools to help you reach your goals.